I take the Mass Turnpike to work almost every morning. Today, as I zipped along at about 70 mph in the 55 mph zone, another gentleman, in true "Masshole" fashion, decided to "urge" me to drive faster by pulling up close behind me and waving his arms excitedly. From my rearview, I could see the expression on his face (yeah, he was that close), so I could tell that he wasn't having a genuine emergency. He was angry, red in the face, and shouting some really obscene words. (No, I couldn't hear him, but I sure could read his lips!) I thought I was trucking along nicely, but hey, everyone's entitled to their opinion.
There was a bit of traffic, so it wasn't safe for me to immediately move over, but I knew that horn blowing and light flashing were only moments away. When the way was clear, I signalled and moved over to allow the other driver to pass. He pulled up alongside me and then slowed down long enough to drive his point home by screaming some more (I still couldn't hear him. I was listening to the radio). He finally punctuated his vitriol by flipping me the bird, and then he sped off.
My response? Well, I just smiled at him, waved hello, and sent him a silent blessing. Sir, I hope you get to wherever it is that you're going to safely. I surprised myself, actually, because I really meant it. I even felt a bit of compassion for him: Seriously. Who wants to get to work that badly?
I know that a mere decade ago, my response would have been radically different. (Ask me some time about the day that I intentionally rammed another car while going 75 mph on the very same road, fully prepared to die or kill in defense of being "right.") But today it seems that I've grown older and a little bit wiser. Those two kid's seats in the back — even empty ones — are a nice reminder to be civil and to focus on the important things in life.
Take it easy out there. Life moves fast enough.
Monday, January 31, 2011
Monday, December 13, 2010
Some (More) Thougths on Healthy Eating as Self-Defense
As parents and educators, when we discuss children’s safety, health, and well-being in the context of ”self-defense,” we spend a lot of time emphasizing how children can use skills like environmental awareness, conscious body language and posture, and a strong voice. We teach kids how to be assertive, how to ask for help, and how to respond with appropriate action when their intuition alerts them to something that seems unusual, uncomfortable, or just plain out of place. Ultimately, we teach and empower children to take control by using physical resistance techniques whenever they are in immediate, physical danger.
We tend to worry about the stranger in the dark alley, the bully on the playground, and everything in between. The threats to children’s safety are real, and our fears for their well being are justified. But one of the most dangerous things a child may face every day is what shows up on their plate at every meal.
We’ve all heard that obesity among children is at an all-time high in our country, and we know that a lifetime of poor eating habits can have significant negative consequences in terms of a child’s long-term health. Increased risk for heart disease, high blood pressure, hypertension, heart attack, stroke, and other maladies can all be linked to poor eating habits, and recent statistics from the Department of Health and Human Services indicate that one out of three children who are born today will develop Type 2 diabetes in their lifetime. Because of these immediate threats, and our ability to intervene before damage is done, I believe that it’s time for children’s safety and self-defense educators to add “dietary self-defense” to their safety and wellness curriculum.
But what is dietary self-defense? Like physical self-defense, dietary self-defense is all about awareness and choice. Most people — children and adults — do not eat in a way that promotes optimal health and well being, and many people may think their diet is healthy while they consume foods that are devoid of nutrition.
I suggest that we self-defense instructors take the necessary steps to educate ourselves so that we, in turn, can provide children with information about what they are eating and how it affects them. A logical step in this process, of course, is to model the behaviors that we would like children to adopt by becoming healthy eaters ourselves. We can provide better, more nutritious options at the breakfast/lunch/dinner table, and we can teach children how to make better decisions about their food choices when they are out on their own.
Ultimately self defense instructors could become nutrition education resources who are capable of answering “self defense” questions such as: What are proteins, fats, carbohydrates, and antioxidants, and what role to they play in the body? How much sugar is too much? What are whole grain foods and why should I eat them? How do I read a food label? What is Type 2 diabetes? How do you get it? What are the risk factors and warning signs, and how can I prevent it?
Avoiding Type 2 Diabetes
Type 2 diabetes is a complex metabolic disorder that impacts how the body uses insulin, a hormone that helps regulate blood sugar. People with diabetes may suffer a number of maladies, including blindness, hearing loss, and kidney disease, and they are at an increased risk for heart attacks and strokes. There is no cure for Type 2 diabetes, but it is in many ways a “lifestyle disease” that is preventable in almost all cases. The best defenses against Type 2 diabetes are an active lifestyle and a healthy diet.
Simple Ways to Develop a Healthy-Eating Lifestyle:
Type 2 diabetes is a complex metabolic disorder that impacts how the body uses insulin, a hormone that helps regulate blood sugar. People with diabetes may suffer a number of maladies, including blindness, hearing loss, and kidney disease, and they are at an increased risk for heart attacks and strokes. There is no cure for Type 2 diabetes, but it is in many ways a “lifestyle disease” that is preventable in almost all cases. The best defenses against Type 2 diabetes are an active lifestyle and a healthy diet.
- Encourage children to create a “rainbow on their plate” by selecting foods of various colors.
- Avoid fast food restaurants when dining out.
- Avoid heavily processed foods at the grocery store. They’re usually found in the middle of the store, so so stick to the outside isles when shopping!
- Teach kids to read labels: Avoid foods loaded with unsaturated fat, sugar, or high fructose corn syrup.
- Reduce consumption of soda and sugary drinks. Drink more plain water and natural fruit juices.
- Control the size of meal portions. Don’t eat more than you can hold in your cupped hands.
- Slow down: Take the time to chew, taste, and ENJOY your food!
- Don’t eat meals (breakfast, lunch, dinner) anywhere but at a table. Don’t eat in the car, in front of T.V., etc.
- Cook your own meals or help cook with your family
- Reach for herbs and spices before reaching for salt and butter
Monday, November 15, 2010
Friday, September 17, 2010
A Funny Thing Happend On My Way to Work Today
A funny thing happened to me on the way to work this morning. On my usual driving route is a small coffee shop, where every now and then I stop for juice and a bagel before I hit the highway. This morning, I discovered that my usual parking space was gone. Well, it wasn't really gone, but it was overgrown: a fresh patch of green grass was in the spot that usually belongs to my Toyota!
A local group of community activists were celebrating "Parking Day." They had reclaimed my parking space and turned it into a public park by planting grass (and inviting people to sunbathe on it!), and making music in their new community space. This was no small accomplishment, and it was all legit. They had a permit and everything!
Now, these folks were not martial artists, but they certainly showed their warrior spirit and a penchant for taking action, their environmental awareness and compassion, and a willingness to engage the community about important issues.
And they were having FUN.
Now these people are Artists of Life!
A local group of community activists were celebrating "Parking Day." They had reclaimed my parking space and turned it into a public park by planting grass (and inviting people to sunbathe on it!), and making music in their new community space. This was no small accomplishment, and it was all legit. They had a permit and everything!
Now, these folks were not martial artists, but they certainly showed their warrior spirit and a penchant for taking action, their environmental awareness and compassion, and a willingness to engage the community about important issues.
And they were having FUN.
Now these people are Artists of Life!
Monday, August 2, 2010
An Open Letter to the Pitiable Soul Who Broke Into My Car Over the Weekend -- and Found Little to Nothing of "Value" to Steal
Dear Sir or Madam,
I came outside early on Saturday morning to discover that overnight, you had let yourself into my vehicle, which I mistakenly left unlocked with the alarm off. I'd like thank you for trying the door instead of smashing the window.
Once inside my car, you dumped the contents of my glove compartment, center console, and ashtray all over my passenger side front seat and floor, leaving me quite a mess to clean up. I understand that you were probably in a rush, but the next time you care visit, please clean up after yourself. Oh, and also, be sure to CLOSE the door so as not to drain my battery!
I can only assume that you were looking for something of value — perhaps a Blackberry, an i-phone, a wallet, or a GPS. I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I do not leave valuables in my car for strangers, such as yourself, to take from me. (I noticed, though, that you left the dollar or two in change sitting by the gear shift — is there a dollar amount that you would have taken?) As for the small $10 pocket knife that you did take — well, please consider that as a parting gift. (Never liked it anyway.)
As for the car itself — well, I suppose that a much-used and somewhat banged up 2002 Toyota Rav-4 probably wouldn't fetch much these days, so I understand why you didn't try to hotwire it and drive it away. I must say, however, that I was dumbfounded and quite sorry to see that you did not help yourself to the remarkable warehouse of treasures that were sitting in plain sight.
Allow me to explain.
You see, while driving my car back and forth to work, I regularly attend "Mobile University," and I listen to motivational and inspirational audio CDs for my own personal growth and development. Among my collection — which you carelessly tossed aside — are the following:
But you didn't take them.
Your loss.
Perhaps someday you'll have another opportunity to access a GOLD MINE like the one you overlooked on Friday night.
Thanks again for the reminder to lock my door and set my car alarm.
Warm regards,
Jason
Sensei Jason Gould
Emerald Necklace Martial Arts, Boston
I came outside early on Saturday morning to discover that overnight, you had let yourself into my vehicle, which I mistakenly left unlocked with the alarm off. I'd like thank you for trying the door instead of smashing the window.
Once inside my car, you dumped the contents of my glove compartment, center console, and ashtray all over my passenger side front seat and floor, leaving me quite a mess to clean up. I understand that you were probably in a rush, but the next time you care visit, please clean up after yourself. Oh, and also, be sure to CLOSE the door so as not to drain my battery!
I can only assume that you were looking for something of value — perhaps a Blackberry, an i-phone, a wallet, or a GPS. I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I do not leave valuables in my car for strangers, such as yourself, to take from me. (I noticed, though, that you left the dollar or two in change sitting by the gear shift — is there a dollar amount that you would have taken?) As for the small $10 pocket knife that you did take — well, please consider that as a parting gift. (Never liked it anyway.)
As for the car itself — well, I suppose that a much-used and somewhat banged up 2002 Toyota Rav-4 probably wouldn't fetch much these days, so I understand why you didn't try to hotwire it and drive it away. I must say, however, that I was dumbfounded and quite sorry to see that you did not help yourself to the remarkable warehouse of treasures that were sitting in plain sight.
Allow me to explain.
You see, while driving my car back and forth to work, I regularly attend "Mobile University," and I listen to motivational and inspirational audio CDs for my own personal growth and development. Among my collection — which you carelessly tossed aside — are the following:
- Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
- Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude by Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone
- Change Your Mind, Change Your Life by Wayne Dyer
- The Power Of Intention by Wayne Dyer
- Spiritual Activation by Julia Butterfly Hill
- Power Networking by Brian Tracy
- The Way to Wealth in America by Brian Tracy
- The Millionaire Mindset by Lee Milteer
- The Dale Carnegie Leadership Mastery Course
- The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
But you didn't take them.
Your loss.
Perhaps someday you'll have another opportunity to access a GOLD MINE like the one you overlooked on Friday night.
Thanks again for the reminder to lock my door and set my car alarm.
Warm regards,
Jason
Sensei Jason Gould
Emerald Necklace Martial Arts, Boston
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